HOW'S WORK

ESTHER PEREL

All of your relational habits don't immediately disappear the moment you walk in the office door.

May 4, 2021

From day one, they’ve described their relationship as “tumultuous." One is new to the workforce, the other is new to this particular workplace. One manages the other. And while they like each other on a personal level, they clash over their fundamentally different approaches to getting the job done.

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April 27, 2021

Married for ten years and co-owners for seven, they bring their home dynamic to work with them. Their employees are sick of the fights and the struggles for power and control, and so are they. Meanwhile, she also worries their roles at their gym have been divided along gender lines.

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April 20, 2021

They've spent their whole lives in careers that made promises it could not keep. They are fashion models, both scouted as teenagers. Now one fights to let go, the other to find a better way to stay.

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April 13, 2021

Two lobbyists whose fight for racial equality ended up dividing them. With Esther they revisit the circumstances that lead to their decision to split up and confront the subjects at the center of it all: race, gender, sexual harassment and money.

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April 6, 2021

Iconic couples therapist Esther Perel returns for Season 2 of How's Work? Esther brings a new perspective to the invisible forces that shape workplace dynamics, connections, and conflict through one-time therapy sessions with coworkers, cofounders, and colleagues.

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April 6, 2021

He’s a doctor, she works for the government. Her job is one thing on paper, and another thing in secret. He wants to leave his job, but doesn’t know how. When their busy careers come crashing to a halt because of the pandemic, they face a new reality at home. Who gets to be the one to leave a job during uncertain times? And can they rely on their 19 year marriage for stability and support?

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March 31, 2020

In this special episode — recorded in front of a live audience — Esther Perel and Adam Grant explore the dynamics of trust, power, and people-pleasing.

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January 21, 2020

Husband and wife who are co-owners of a winery and restaurant. He loves the colleague that she is at work, but he likes less the wife she is at home. As their marriage ends, they wonder if the future of their business depends on the future of their marriage.

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January 14, 2020

They’ve been hairdressers for many years in a job that feels like a cross between salesperson and therapist. They vie for new clients and commissions while absorbing the anxieties, frustrations, and burdens of their regulars. How they each handle this balance is a study in contrasts.

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January 7, 2020

She’s been unhappy at her job for more than 20 years and doesn't know how to leave. Her sister, a successful entrepreneur, wants to help, but this only makes her feel less-than. Family tensions and resentments, both at home and at the office, keep her frozen in place. Esther walks the sisters through an exit plan.

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December 17, 2019

She owns a successful restaurant. He was her bar manager for six years. Now they’re going into business together as co-owners of a taqueria. They turn to Esther for guidance on how to transition from employer-employee to partners in a new venture. But they walk away with a deeper understanding of the ways their different cultural backgrounds and previous working relationships influence their partnership.

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December 10, 2019

They were mates in university before co-founding a successful communications company. They still work together from different coasts, but they barely speak. One wants to move on; the other is grasping for his former friend. Neither can find the words to talk about it.

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December 3, 2019

A year ago they were suddenly let go from their jobs as leaders of a creative team. Now they're starting a new company together. But to build over the scar tissue and begin again, they must first let go of the painful ending that came before.

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November 19, 2019

She started a real estate company 30 years ago. Her son, who calls himself a Mama’s Boy, recently joined the business. They think their close mother-son relationship hurts the brand. With Esther’s help, they start to explore the many gender and familial biases at play...both in the office and around the family dinner table.

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November 12, 2019

Friends and fellow dancers at a strip club: one brings years of experience, the other a youthful energy that turns angry at times. They’re here to talk about boundaries that are crossed, educating “civilians" about their work, family acceptance, and how they'll transition from the sex work industry into professional careers. Can sex work be a bullet point on a resume?

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November 5, 2019

They flew fighter jets together in Iraq and Afghanistan. Then they co-founded a successful business. Now, for the first time in their adult lives, they’re ready to part ways professionally, but they don’t know what their lives would look like without their "brother of choice." Side-by-side on Esther's couch, they talk about letting go of the fierce loyalty bonds forged in the cockpit.

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November 5, 2019

In this prologue, Esther Perel introduces us to the idea of the “relational dowry.” Each of us has a relationship resume that is cultivated at home - in our families, our communities, and our romantic lives - that influences the way we interact with our colleagues at work. Here we meet a few of the people Esther will invite into her office over the course of the series: coworkers, cofounders, bosses and employees, and family members who work together.

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